I just finished a sweet little romance book - written in 3rd person but semi chic-lit. The book is called, "The Guy I'm Not Dating" and the plot is written around the girl's attempt at "Kissing Dating Good-Bye" - the non-dating approach made popular by Joshua Harris. I think I agree with that concept, probably more than most, but also felt like the terminology of what makes a couple dating or non-dating isn't as much important as their like minded attitude towards their relationship or future.
It got me thinking, however, as to what advice you would feel important to pass on to your kids- or children you know, from your own experiences or those that you've encountered regarding dating, engagement, and getting married. As most of you know, these blog posts eventually get turned into an annual book for our family, so as you post comments, I'll eventually move them onto the post so they will make it in to the book. (As the program currently works, comments are never published). I'd love for my kids to read over them now and then - and hopefully pay attention!
Stephieanne's advice: Do not get engaged (or stay engaged) unless the couple actually has a wedding date in mind (0r approx. date). The man I was engaged to prior to John, actually canceled our original wedding date, because "he just wasn't sure", but still desired to remain engaged. It left me in a terrible place of wandering - a no-man's-land of technically being engaged but not certain if my fiance ever wanted to go through with a wedding. It was miserable and caused a great deal of insecurity.
Also, never settle. I think my mantra to this is, a life of singleness, as lonely as it may feel from time to time, is infinitely better than feeling trapped in a marriage that feels like a dead-end or tears you down emotionally (or even worse). I know of more than one story of a bride walking down the aisle, wondering if they were making the right decision. That's pretty scary.....
What's your advice?