Friday, September 08, 2006

Did I Ask for Your Opinion?

And, so the week of school, sports, and activities has begun - and I feel as though it's gone well, which I'm very pleased about. But, it hasn't been without a few hiccups.... one, would be the overzealous, intensely competitive, braggart which was the mom of the only other child in Mikayla's soccer class. I had so many options on that class, and I almost chose the hour prior, but, oh no, I stuck with the 11:30 timeslot and consequently had to suffer through the barage of allocades and achievements of one 4 and a half year old daughter (who, I will say, was a wonderful companion to Mikayla - I have nothing against her...). Do some people just not realize how innapropriate it is to completely overpower a conversation with how their child should just skip kindergarten altogether because she is gifted enough to write her name and add by 1's? And, don't even get her started on the genetic giftedness in athletics she possesses.....

If that weren't the worst of it, this is how the mom first addressed the coach, after watching the coach enthusiastically greet my daughter-

EXCUSE ME, ARE YOU GOING TO EVEN ACKNOWLEDGE MY DAUGHTER AND INVITE HER TO PLAY TOO? I MEAN WE'VE ONLY BEEN STANDING HERE, BEING IGNORED, FOR TEN MINUTES.....

Wow, that charmed the pants off of me, let me tell you - I knew right there and then, that this woman and I would be BFF's.....


As for the second hiccup, that would be the unsolicitated opinions that people who don't know you, your situation, or your family decide to give, because, by golly, they are the experts of life. I'll just leave it at that, I had an annoying experience today, but it's certainly not worth diving into - it just teaches me to be careful not to make someone else ever feel the way this person made me feel.

On a positive note, I am THRILLED with Brayden's first grade teacher (she "gets" him - can laugh at his apparent lack of focus and clearly appreciates him for the space cadet/lovable kid that we know he can be - PRAISE GOD!), and both Mikayla's pre-school teacher and soccer coach - Mikayla was so enamored with both of them that she was hardly able to follow directions - she just kept grinning and giggling. Too cute.

Hope your week, went well, hiccups and all.....

7 comments:

HollieHobbie said...

I'm just going to call you Jessica Simpson and the other soccer mom Cacee Cobb. Or that may upset her because I am referring to her as the assistant. Shoot! I do not like being around people like that at all; I actually feel sorry for them like they may need to live vicariously through their young children like maybe they feel like they have missed out on something in life. Or they are just completely miserable human beings. Anyways, enough analyzing.
So sorry you went through that. But awesome that Mikayla and Brayden love their teacher.

LiteraryGirl said...

Isn't Brayden in 2nd grade? Or am I off a year.

StephieAnne said...
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StephieAnne said...

YES - Brayden is in 2nd grade. I think I'd denial as that's the second time I've messed up with that. He did pass first grade.....

JustMe said...

Well, your post sounded eerily like the one I wrote last week about my boss - including the anger. It's so hard to extend grace to people who you'd rather extend a baseball bat to. My boss even admitted that she is just so competitive, she wants so badly to be able to say, "My son skipped a grade, blah blah blah." And it will only be $3000 more per year to have him attend Ashbrook, than his current private school! Grrr.

Then the other day we took Rachel to Kind. orientation and the school counselor filled out paperwork with us and made at least TWO comments about Rachel's multiple preschools. At one point I said, "She's a pretty average, well-adjusted kid" and the counselor looked at the list of preschools and said, "I don't know if I'd say that!" I'm trying to remind myself that if the person's opinion about me isn't informed and doesn't matter, I shouldn't let it bother me so much. Easier said than done.

It's so hard to be "in the world but not of it" - to feel like the only one whose hopes and dreams for our children are more about Christ-like character than achievements.

StephieAnne said...

Justme - That's just horrible about the kindergarten counselor making such a snide comment.... aahhhggg! BTW, Can I address you by first name rather than the blogger name?

JustMe said...

Yeah, you can call me Heather. ;)